This Valentines day you can celebrate more than your relationship. You can celebrate the added health benefits that your relationship brings. Various research studies indicate that people in healthy, long term relationships have overall better health than the lonely. Benefits range from better sleep to decreased risk of cancer! Here is a rundown on 3 of the most important health boosts you get from your significant other.
1. Cardiovascular health
People in happy relationships tend to have healthier blood pressure levels, as reported in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine. Interestingly, this research reports that unhappily married couples did not have healthy blood pressure levels. So it is not just being in a relationship that makes you healthy; it is the quality of the relationship that is the most important indicator of a healthy blood pressure level.
The researchers also found that sexual intimacy twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who engaged in intimate relations less than once a week.
According to the journal Biological Psychology, frequent intercourse is also associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between simple hugs from their partner and lower blood pressure in women.
2. Anxiety Related Issues
People in long-term, committed relationships are less anxious. Research on anxiety reveals that a loving, stable long-term relationship trumps new romance for reporting low levels of anxiety; and brain scans support this truth. Neuroscientists believe this is because solid, long-term relationships show activation in parts of the brain that are associated with bonding – and much less activation in the parts of the brain that activate levels of anxiety.
Maybe less anxiety activity in the brain contributes to the fact that people in happy committed relationships manage stress better than people not in these relationships. There is a link between good stress management and social support. You cannot underestimate the value of a supportive partner who loves and cares for you when you are faced with stressful situations. We cope better when we have the emotional support of someone who loves us.
Given this information it is no surprise that people in healthy relationships are less prone to depression and substance abuse. Scientific research shows people in committed relationships report fewer signs and symptoms of depression. Why? Social isolation is directly linked to higher rates of depression. And some researchers were surprised to discover that marriage is directly related to a decline in substance abuse and problem drinking.
3. Healing, Immunity, and Pain Perception
People in positive relationships heal faster. Flesh wounds have been found to heal nearly twice as fast in spouses who had warm interactions with their partners as compared to spouses who had aggressive and hostile interactions with each other.
People in happy relationships have fewer colds. Happy relationships seem to give our immune system a boost so fewer colds are a common by-product of this increased immunity. Having intimate intercourse once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., discovered that adults who engage in intimate moments “frequently”- once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA than those in other groups. However, individuals engaging in intercourse “very often” or 3 or more times weekly had lower levels of the antibody. So sadly, yes, you can have too much of a good thing.
Oxytocin, a key hormone in developing trust and creating lasting emotional bonds, has been linked to decreased pain perception. This hormone is released in women when they receive tender touch and surges in both genders during orgasm. In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked decreased their pain perception by more than half. The next time a headache is putting a damper on bedroom activity, give oxytocin a chance to work. You might be surprised.
As the cold and flu season continues to rage on and the stress of taxes closes in you can thank your partner for safeguarding you.
Here’s to your good health this Valentine’s day!
Thanks to all of you who came to our Couples Massage Class, we hope it’s made your Valentines Day a little bit better! Another thank you to Camylle Katherman for contributing this article.

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